BreakUp Prevention: Are You Guilty of (Unwittingly) Sabotaging Your Relationship?

written by: Megan

Did you know, there are 3 things you might be saying – particularly during an argument - that have the power to shake your man´s world?

Not only can these things cause your man to pull away and withdraw inside himself. They can lead to a complete emotional shut down.

So, what are these bombshells?

1) Implying he can´t provide well for your family

"If you had a better job we could finally stop living hand to mouth!"

2) Implying he isn´t interested in family time

"You´re always working! You might as well be married to your job for the amount of time you manage to spend with me and the kids."

3) Implying he doesn´t do enough around the house

"Your career gets all your attention. You never seem to find time to give me a hand with the unglamorous chores like laundry and grocery shopping."

Believe it or not, men have a deep, primal need to be the protector and breadwinner for their family. By implying your man is unable to succeed in this area, you strike a blow to his very core.

When your man´s job is causing issues in your relationship, tossing accusations and innuendos around won´t help make things better. If you truly want to win your man´s heart instead of driving him away, you need to work with him.

This isn´t meant to be an excuse for your mate´s poor behavior, however. You shouldn´t feel the need to give in to these negative tendencies – that would only cause your relationship to crumble even further.

Truth be told, the power for change is in your hands.

You can either tear your man down with criticism and spite – which will only result in his pulling back and away, unwilling and unable to change things on his own. Or you can help him be more successful by being more supportive yourself.

Right about now, you may be wondering what you can do, and what you can say to bolster his self-esteem, and help him be the receptive and caring mate you know he can be.

The 3 Things You Can Say To Ensure Your Man´s Success

Try using these suggestions to help him be the successful man you fell in love with!

1) Show him you know he can provide for your family:

"I know you´re doing your best to provide for us financially, and I´d like to do my share by looking into some other possibilities for boosting our household income. While I do that, we can think about ways to cut some of our monthly costs.”

2) Let him know what an important part of the family he really is

"I know you have a lot on your plate at work right now – the kids and I miss you, and need some time with you as well. Can we work together to try and find a solution that works for all of us?”

3) Show your appreciation for the things he does do around the house

"I know you have a lot of work at the office, and it takes a lot out of you. Still, I´m working, too and need some help with things around the house to be sure things can keep running smoothly for all of us.”

Get in the habit of using these suggestions with your man on a regular basis and you may not only be amazed at how receptive he becomes, you both will see how working together can draw you so much closer in your relationship.